A fellow blogger shared the below picture on her Facebook page that has a lot of followers. It was super nice of her to share it and direct her followers to my Summer Home Tour on my blog. The post did have a lot of kind comments and likes, but of course I notice the one not so kind comment. I don’t know why some people on Facebook or I guess in general, (but Facebook seems to attract the boldest people) that feel they can just say whatever they want- even if it is negative. It takes so much energy and effort to say something negative, I don’t get it. I hear it from other blogger friends too, the things people say when they don’t “like” something they have shared in their home. I want to just point out I don’t share my home with the world because I think everyone should do what I do. not. at. all. I share because I enjoy the challenge of creating. I want to inspire others to make their home a place they want to be. THEY want to be and their loved ones, not Facebook land.
This was not my first mean comment from Social Media. I have had a few others say bold comments about my home. I take it all as a grain of salt. I like what I like. And I am not going to apologize and change everything because of what others think.
That being said, after reading the “meany” comment…
I thought hmmmm maybe she does have a valid point.
I could actually learn a thing or two from *this* comment.
Ok- I will tell you the comment. It was along the lines of “that bookcase is way to cluttered.”
ouch.
But then I looked at the picture again.
Through different eyes. Not my eyes that LOVE every little piece I have collected over the years.
It did look cluttered.
In person the bookcase didn’t feel cluttered. But in the picture it does. I see it.
I just love the antique shoe horns, the white pots, the gold typewriter that my husband gave me, the framed letter, the glass boxes with sea shells we collected and that book. you get it. I get attached to things.
So I started from square one. I took it all out.
Started fresh.
BEST bookcase styling tip. This is what I actually do for design clients.
I take everything out and start fresh.
Now just because I want to simplify does not mean I needed to get rid of my collection of white pots. Just that I didn’t need them ALL out right now. I needed to take the advice that I give to my design clients.
Here is my simplified styled bookcase- thanks Facebook.
I left a couple of the shelves empty. For some rest and to avoid the “cluttered” look.
I had added some leftover wallpaper from our master bedroom ceiling (from THIS post).
I did use books throughout my bookcase. I turned the covers to the back or I tore off the covers to keep it balanced throughout and stuck to the brighter white books and got rid of the cream. I did keep some of my new favorites out.
This is the opposite side of my bookcase. It is still me. I kept the things out that I really love. Also I wanted to point out that we do LIVE in our home. The bottom corner has books that we are currently reading or reference often.
In the end I love the change. I appreciate constructive feedback. And not all of us can let things bounce off of us or take a positive spin on it. I still think that “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” There is a better way to go about sharing your opinion. Rather than blasting it on Facebook.
I know I would have naturally made changes to my bookcase because trends change and I like to change things up once in awhile. ok, every day I change things.
I thought I would share some more styled bookcase inspiration photos. They are all SO different, yet I can appreciate and take something helpful from every photo.
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You can read more of my Bookcase Styling Tips HERE. And if you don’t like them- just find me on Facebook and tell me there:)
My mantra has always been…”if you love it, nothing (or no one) else matters.” It’s your home, not mine, it’s your space, not mine. How you style your home is personal, comfortable, inviting, and loving. It’s your personality that shines through the whole house, not another magazine spread…you’ve made it you.
Many times I have been asked by friends after a “redo” how I like what they have done. I will admit, there were times when I know in my heart I wasn’t feeling it…didn’t especially like it but my response to them was “it’s so you” said with a smile and a hug. Because you know what, it WAS them and they loved it. And, at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
PS…either way, you’ve done well!
I love that:) I totally agree with everything you said. It is tricky. Because I did think it was a little busy after looking at it again, I didn’t need to have it ALL out. hahah So while I think people need to be nicer I did learn something.
xxxxx
I so enjoy your blog, and your style! It takes courage to face your critics, it takes courage to put yourself out in the public eye. Please continue to be yourself, and know you are appreciated!
Awe thank you Lisa. It can be hard and I think I ask myself daily. Maybe I will stop sharing. But I really enjoy it- so I will just ignore the meanies:)
It’s such a matter of personal taste, but I didn’t think they looked cluttered at all. Thank you for sharing your lovely home and ideas. I’m looking for done simple bamboo shades like yours. Can I ask where you got them?
Thanks Tiffany! You are too sweet:) They were actually in the home when we moved in. I have seen them on Amazon before actually! Check there!
I just quit Facebook. To many negative postings. As much as I like to see what friends are doing I saw too much hate.
I love your home! Thank you for today’s post.
Thank you Tracy. I appreciate your comment.
Brooke,
I love everything you said, I would have a hard time with it and pick at myself. But this was a good thing to say because people need to act on social media like they were standing face to face with someone. Well said! I love seeing all your pics you are a great inspiration to me. Hugs
Thank you sweet Kim! I loved seeing your name pop up on my blog:) xoxo
I love your transparency! There is not end ugh of that now daysand you know, it is so hard being a woman. For me, I want everyone to “approve” of the choices I make to improve my home. I think Satan tries so hard to get to us by our thoughts, feeling accepted and appreciated. But God…… God always sees our best. He always loves us where we are. And like Elizabeth said above, He smiles and says “it’s so you”. Bless you! Keep living your passion.
P.S. I sooooo want some of your mud cloth pillows. I tried to find them on your blog page and Instagram. Do you sell them?
Haylee?
Thank you for your kind words. I totally agree and have said that exact same thing before about Satan. He wants us to feel less than.
My pillows are form Danielle Oakey I wrote about them on this blog post- http://nestingwithgrace.com/how-to-pick-the-right-pillows/
I love your bookshelves styled both ways. You have the magic touch when selecting how and what to display. So so much inspiration!!
Thank you SO much:) I appreciate your support!
I loved your bookshelves before but wow…. I actually felt my shoulders relax when I saw the redo, especially the left side! Sometimes I like clutter and sometimes I want space… kind of like sometimes I want Mexican food and sometimes I just want an apple and some peanut butter crackers.
A few days ago on Instagram I saw some corbels someone purchased from Hobby Lobby. I raced to our local store and purchased 2 of them…. raced home… put them on either side of our vent hood in the kitchen above the cabinets (mine don’t go to the ceiling) …. Our kitchen looks 2 feet taller. They pull the eye upward and balance what was once empty. It always amazes me how little tweaks make so much difference in our homes. And yours is one of my favs….
I agree- I go in fazes of wanting a lot and wanting to get rid of it all!
That sounds really cute in your kitchen- little tweeks go a long way!
I have to watch myself with all my ‘stuff’ as I sometimes put too much around, especially at Christmas. At the same time I love spaciousness and a clean look. I had to decide the same thing and rotate now. I finally built an extra “closet” in the 3rd car space in the garage using 10 black wire storage shelves from target to form a big U shape. It is handy near the kitchen and the garage is nice with finished walls and a painted floor and now I can put things back and forth easily.
I agree- Christmas can be the WORST with so much stuff! I do have a big empty basement that has shelves to rotate all my things too:) it helps to know you aren’t getting rid of the loved pieces.
I love following your blog. I look for homes that speak to me or tell a story about the people who live there. Your home says alot about you and your family and the way you live. You can tell that love lives here.
Thank you for your comment and I agree- I like to see the story!
I must say that I loved your bookcases before. They are certainly pretty now, but I love displaying all the things I love and seeing other people do the same. It’s fun to go into people’s homes and see all their treasured objects. Personally, I love your style and I fund your home so charming. Hope to see you put back some of your things!!
Thank you! I really like seeing all the personal things as well. I guess there is a season for everything. Thanks again.
Brooke, I’ve been meaning to write something on here for awhile now… first I LOVE your blog. I can’t remember how I found it, but I’m so glad I did. I have a background in interior design but I don’t practice anymore (state worker). I love your blog because it inspires me to keep being creative in my own home for my family and for myself. Also, I have 2 girls, similar ages to your girls. So, I really love reading about their birthday parties and interests. But in addition to that, your blog posts have been keeping me motivated, personally. I’m struggling with where I’m at in my life with work vs. kids/home life… and I swear I get a “new blog post” notification in my email, at just the right time, from you! Several mornings I have been in my car, trying to convince myself to walk into work and I get your notification. It makes me get up, walk into work and read your post. So I just want to say thanks for sharing your ideas, home and life with me and everyone else. I really appreciate it! Keep posting & sharing your love! Thank you, Jamie 🙂
Oh thank you SO much for sharing that with me. You just brought tears to my eyes. I can’t believe I can impact someone in that way. You sound like someone I would want to hang out with:) I do hope you find time to be creative at home- I know for me it does keep me going some days and boosts my mood!
Ironic. I’ve always loved your bookshelves! ? And who cares, really … they are Bookshelves. My fav part of your home is how you care for your family by making delicious, healthy meals and also let them make and eat unhealthy Valentines cookies!! Thanks for continuing to be brave enough to put yourself out there. I look forward to your pics and posts!!
Thank you! You are so cute- yes we have unhealthy things once in a while:)
I think that both ways that you styled look great. I hate to see you change what you love because of a hateful comment. Your home is so pretty……. keep what you love!
Thank you! I actually like it both- and after maybe better now. Thanks for your kind words!
I LOVE how you style a bookcase, a counter top or a dresser!! I am continually visiting your blog for inspiration. Thank you!
I think that your bookshelves look great both ways! I used to always try to please others, but I am starting to realize – I don’t like or agree with everyone, why should everyone like me? We are all different and I just wish people were better at accepting others as unique, not better than one another.
I love your bookcases and seat between them. I’ve always loved bookcases and wish I had some. If I’m honest, I do like the after much better. I hope that doesn’t make me a bad person. I feel I can truly appreciate the objects you have out much better without so much around them. Especially that typewriter! That needed it’s own space to shine. It’s like each cubby is a picture frame just waiting to emphasize something special or tell a story. It’s hard when we have so many treasures. It’s just “stuff” but it’s hard to not have it all out. I don’t use facebook because to me it’s just a huge brag book or a place where people go to complain about things. You rarely see people post about “real” life, i.e. my kid threw up all over me on the way to school, lost my keys, car broke down-no money to fix, etc. I just can’t do it. Plus I feel like I’ve given myself the gift of time each day (the time I’m not wasting on FB!). Best wishes and happy decorating!
thanks Janet- I do too. Interesting how we can learn from a bold comment. We do need honesty. Facebook is a time suck of sure. Good for you to stay away from it!
Biggest reason I’m no longer on Facebook. I have followed your sweet family for a little while. Your home is your home. Perfect for your family. I have enjoyed your creativity with a smaller home. Your fresh ideas are so fun . Your children and husband seem to love it also. What else matters. Hope your day is a good one, and fill those shelves up if you like them.?
you are so cute- thanks Linda. I appreciate your sweet comment. Have a good day!
I like your bookcases both ways but then I love everything you do. You are super talented. I agree though, if you don’t like something then don’t say anything at all. Be kind and respectful of other people and their taste. Everyone likes different things. That’s what makes the world so interesting .
I am flattered Donna. I guess there is really no “right” way to do anything in design. I do like the change and appreciate honesty- I guess it has to be taken lightly. Have a good week!
We need to initiate positive statements about people , not negative ones.
well said! Thanks:)
I love your sweet blog and like your bookcases both ways! Sometimes I wonder if Facebook is worth it…..so much YUCKY. 🙁 Keep doing what you do; I have always thought that you have a great eye. I tend toward wanting all of my stuff out as well, and am constantly editing!
Thank you! It is totally a process for sure!
Dear Brooke-
I am in the process of purchasing the same floor tile you used in your kitchen. I have read through all of your posts from the ORC and while you mention your backsplash being installed, I did not see a source or additional information about it. I did read through the comments and didn’t find any information either. Would you be able to provide me with what it is called and purchased and what color grout you used? I would very appreciate it.
Thank you in advance for any help you can give me.
Monica
The back splash I used is a beveled edge subway tile- most any tile shop should have it. I did a charcoal grout. Hope that helps!
i’m sad that comment got under your skin. i’ve had people come over to mine and comment on the number of family photos i have displayed…that one really stuck in my head but i’ll tell you what i told them…my house burnt down when i was eight years old. all family photos until that time burnt with the house. i will love and share and display photos without qualm or hesitation. you have to love where you live and love what you live with. that said i do like what you did with yours but then again i loved the before too 🙂 i admit mine feel cluttered and i’ll take your tips and declutter them as a part of my annual 40 bags in 40 days lent project. the photos wont go but the unloved clutter will. thanks for the inspiration.
I love your comment and words- so good. I will have to look at your 40 bag project- sounds interesting!
The first time I came across your blog you peaked my interest…you said something about being a little uncertain about holding your daughters birthday party in your cozy home. I loved your honesty and have tuned in to see your updates almost daily. As a matter of fact, these past few days have been very hectic and long. My father passed away on Sunday. In the business of planning and life thrown upside down I found a few needed quiet moments. Your blog was were I chose to go in those quiet moments. Thank you for doing what you do! Thank you for opening up your home and encouraging us to rearrange and love our spaces. You inspired me to move an end table between the beds of my two boys. Now with a lamp on top and a stack of books, it has refueled their love of reading. I am sorry people feel the need to be unpleasant. I just wanted you to know that you do indeed make a difference in the lives of your readers. Thank you for being my quiet moment today. You keep doing what you are doing!
oh you are a blessing. Thank you. I am sorry about your father, I cant imagine how you feel.
thank you for sharing here with me- I love that you made a change and your kids are reading more.
Blessings to you and your family. xoxo
She says cluttered, I say homey and cozy! I love your new version too.
thank you! I do too:)
I will simply says the new look is nice- fresh and clean Great job 😉 it was very mature to actually look with new eyes …. I am going to really try to do the same .
It’s a lot easier to just be offended . Thanks for being so honest …. I am encouraged!
thanks so much!
I have a friend who writes a large home keeping blog and we have talked about some of the nasty comments she gets. It is sad that people feel they can speak so boldly from behind a keyboard or phone. I help admin a farmhouse style group on FB and most people are really nice. Some are not. People have a budget- they may ask for an idea and people are telling them to paint their cabinets and replace their countertops. It’s so rude. Maybe they can’t afford to. Maybe they love it just the way it is.
I have a neighbor who is very minimalist and I…well I am not. 😉 She says the nicest things when she comes over to our house- it’s not her taste to have as many things as we do, but she always says something nice about how I group things, etc. And I can do the same when I go to see someone’s house- it’s their HOME. But I also like seeing homes that have less than I do- it makes me take another look at our home and rethink things. But to be rude to someone about their home- it’s just not right.
I enjoy your blog and IG images because, as I am sure so many would agree, it just feels cozy and REAL. Beautiful, but real and homey. Not staged. Not polished. Warm and inviting. Approachable. Girl, that’s why you have over 100K followers!! Not because your bookcases are too cluttered (which they are not- your gold typewriter is so fun!!). 🙂
you are awesome! Thanks for your encouraging words and I love hearing other peoples stories too. I love to see other styles- does not mean I want it in my home but I really can appreciate it.
Have a good week!
I loved it before but I actually really do love it after and love the simplicity! It’s hard for me to keep things simple but it actually makes each piece stand out even more! I probably need to take this advice and simplify also!
I agree- I like it too it is a hard thing to do- simplify!
I like your bookcases, before and after, Brooke! I think it’s fun to change them up and have them be filled with treasures sometimes, and other times or seasons maybe a little more pared down. You are a great stylist and I love your attitude about the mean comment and how you took it in stride and made it into a positive!
Thanks so much Lisa:) I guess it is all just an experiment!
I agree: “If you don’t have anything to say, don’t say anything at all.” That’s what my mother told me growing up and I shared it with my daughter. Back when I followed the HGTV stars, “The Kitchen Cousins” one of them posted a picture of a beautiful rug they just purchased for their master bedroom. One Facebook follower said, “Sorry, it’s ugly.” I responded to her remark with the, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” She lashed out at me. Such hatred this woman had in her heart! Unbelievable. In a Rihanna song there’s a line, “Don’t let the ba#tards get you down.” That seems to apply over and over again with these haters who say mean, hurtful things behind their computers out in cyberspace.
That is so crazy- I don’t get why someone would say that. I feel bad for them! Way to take the high road!
Brooke, I don’t think I’ve commented before, but I just have to today! Every time I stop by your blog, I just LOVE how warm, inviting and cozy your living room is. And a big part of that has always been your bookshelves! They are full, not “cluttered.” You have such a good eye that your shelves full of things looks so beautiful the way you style it all. I always wish I could just sit in your living room because it is so welcoming and cozy and just the kind of place you’d want to sit and relax for a while. I like the new look too. Sometimes it’s nice to have a change, but I still love the way you had them styled before. And I’m not just saying this to be nice. I truly mean it. I agree though… people should be kind! Not everyone has the same taste, and that’s okay. It makes the world a more interesting place. We should learn to appreciate our differences. Anyway, I just wanted to let you know how much I love your style!
Thank you Monica! I REALLY appreciate you taking the time to leave that thoughtful comment. I actually liked it too and I did have a magazine come take pics and they must have liked it too:) But I do LOVE change. Thanks again. Have a good weekend!
Facebook does get evil minded opinions . Ought to be a different book for this class to respond to. You are not a lesser than. You are not a better than. You are for sure at least an equal to. We are satisfied with that and some can’t stand for that. BAMBI movie my kids were raised on “If you can’t say nothin nice, don’t say nothin at all”. I like how you make your house YOUR home. You weren’t saying your decor was going to stay that way a lifetime. Decor is subject to change every time a woman goes shopping. I enjoyed shopping in your home and thank you.
You have the loveliest home. I love how it has the perfect touch of whimsy. Your children are blessed to grow up in such a creative environment.
well that is just the kindest compliment. Thank you so much:) have a good day!
Eek, another reason I’m glad I’m not on FB. I think your shelves are styled beautifully both before and after:) I love nick knacks, I can’t help it…I’ll simplify an area or some shelves then it slowly builds up again with new nick knacks so then I go back to simplifying LOL. It’s a vicious cycle!!! I’m going to look you up and follow you on IG:) Love your home so much!
Thank you so much Victoria!